Consider the following:
- What if our strengths are so overpowering that a client is reluctant to share her real anxieties and concerns?
- What if our own raw edges make it difficult to slow down and build the all-important working alliance with our client?
- What if our own fears make us unwilling to help a client pursue a daring alternative?
- What if our aspirations are so strong that we fail to recognize that our client wants something much simpler, more direct, and more achievable at least in the short term?
Simply thinking about these questions, whether or not these specifics hit the mark for a particular coach, should highlight the possibility that something in the self of a coach can either promote or undermine clients’ abilities to achieve the changes they so richly desire and deserve. The Self-as-Coach Framework provides a way of scanning the inner landscape to determine what’s most needed with the client and with one’s self at any given time, and it provides a map for the coach’s own developmental journey toward mastery. Cultivation of the inner landscape ought to be one of the most important precepts in coaching.
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